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Saturday, August 23, 2014
Friday, June 13, 2014
|Illustration by lesueurpeas.|
I'm interested to what allows me to believe I'm breathing and alive. As a result, I think of my life in colors now. I'm drawn to bright color palettes and colors that bounce off my skin. I'm interested in eating what I enjoy, and being conscious about mental health and what unsettles me. I don't want to be around people who remind me of basic colors, especially beige. Beige signifies stagnancy.
I'm alive, and I live to live.
Interests: bright colors, fruits, hoop earrings, colorful big earrings, Björk's Post album booklet design, my boyfriend, nachos, being a historian, finishing grad school applications, being a boss, "ain't nobody's business but mine*," Sailor Moon Crystal, Samurai Champloo, Hulu Plus, eighties mahou shoujo themes in Sailor Moon (Season 1), Tsukino Usagi's adolescent, weaponized girl's adolescence in Sailor Moon, my waxed legs, Bahia, being a magical girl.
* The original line is "Ain't nobody's business but mine and my baby's."
Friday, March 21, 2014
“We’re so erased. …If you’re a person of color, if you’re a woman, if you’re from a poor family, if you’re from a rural family, if you’re from a family who worked like dogs and never got any respect or a share of the profits - you know that 99 percent of your stories ain’t been told.
In any fucking medium. And yet we still have to be taught to look, and to tell our stories. …Despite the utter absence of us, it’s still an internal revolution to say wait a minute, we are not only worthy of great art, but the source of great art.” - Junot Díaz
I don't take selfies; or at least, I haven't done it on a normal basis. I posted an "ugly Xmas sweater" look on Christmas Eve on facebook once. I posted a photo of how cute I looked for a Carnaval bloco, too. I own an instagram, a tumblr, a twitter, and facebook account, and I rarely post selfies. But I am friends with those who do. All of them are women of color, especially black women. I love selfies, and they are essential, because I see me.
I am often told by many black Americans (whose ancestors arrived centuries earlier) that I am incredibly lucky to have immigrant parents: to know how sweet it is to be in close proximity to a well-defined ethnic group. Accordingly, it is a privilege to know what your direct lineage is. This has been said to me despite not being able to visit West Africa until I was 21. This has been said to me despite being acculturated into American blackness, by my parents choice.
Jollof rice, highlife, and Twi did not prevent my predominantly white neighborhood from swallowing me into invisibility. Seeing my parents did not prevent me from being unable to see my own reflection, even when I looked in the mirror. Seeing family members did not prevent me from being unable to fantasize myself in dream worlds as a child without viewing myself as a white girl.
Here is evidence that being erased, even when you exist, is psychologically damaging. When I was a child, I believed so many career paths and opportunities were closed off to me because I didn't see any black woman, who I'd eventually become, doing those occupations. When I was a child, I believed fun without fear wasn't for black girls: zip-lining, swimming at friend's pools, buying Spice Girl dolls. Even venturing from these ideas was coined as "being white" - i.e., even when was viewed as trying to assimilate into whiteness, whereas they may have just liked something for the sake of it, was still seen as being an "other." I didn't deserve my grades as being a smart and clever black girl: I received those grades, according to classmates, for trying to assimilate into whiteness. Being "smart" is "being white," apparently.
Sometimes, I didn't even (subconsciously) want to be acceptable (re: white, but I'd never have admitted it). It seemed like Japanese and Chinese girls would always be considered cute, smart, playful, w/e. I had to learn that I tokenized them and I had learned that from white people. I also had to learn that I longed to be them because they were not touched by blackness. Likewise, I didn't understand that my childhood attraction to Anglo or East Asian dudes was another way of leaving blackness.
When I was a child, I didn't think black girls were pretty, even though I didn't really think of our multitudes and variations; but I knew a certain kind of black girl would be viewed as pretty, worthy of (an albeit, compromised and tokenized kind of) respect. I also knew I would never be that girl: I was was darker, very African looking, had the hair that had to be straightened, and didn't sound bougie or like I had a white parent.
I had learned that I had no power, and carried that with me until I was 17.
My curiosity, bravery, and will saved me from suffocating in that psychological violence. I had to learn how to unlearn, how to vomit out the toxic stuff - how to survive with whatever was left of me, and to rebuild myself. Studying history, studying the history of black people in the United States was, and continues to be, a solution to healing. I unlearned shame by learning the context of that shame. I learned pride, survival tools, and closure - this is why I am investing my time into it as my life's work.
But that wasn't necessarily enough. Sure, I'm seeing successes and gains and the strength and power my predecessors had in the past - but the present is just as important as the past. This Cassie was growing, definitely, but still empty.
I had moved from feeling invisible, to sort of visible, to okay: I could admit that I was pretty sometimes, but I was just existing. Makeup was not exciting to me, I still felt limited in what I could wear, and what was available didn't look flattering on me. It got a little better over the years: sometimes, I was really feeling myself.
Because of tumblr.
There a countless people who are quick to dismiss tumblr as a black hole; sometimes, I am one of those people. There are many things about it that I really dislike/I find problematic. But even as the site is difficult, it can be affirming too. It was here that I came into community with girls just like me.
You cannot underestimate it: the feeling of being connected. Of seeing other girls have the same experiences as you, the same problems. Similar interests, dislikes, pains and sorrows, joys, illnesses and disorders and traumas. But all different voices, all different versions of yourself, even when you are all black. There is an intimacy in finally having access to those voices, after being starved almost two decades for this.
It is not only affirming to see words, but pictures too. The people I followed posted so many pictures of the girls and women, mostly black, often women of color, and rarely white. Women of color, doing everything: writing, dancing, singing, teaching, screaming, smiling, crying, numb, exuberant, living, and dying.
They also posted themselves doing the same things; but every photo was different and varied. Personal and impersonal. Neutral, normal, valid; when I was a child, those words were reserved for white girls. Why was I so attached and giddy and proud over these simple selfies?
Within this context, the selfie is a new framework for women of color to create their own visibility and subvert dominant truths. Regardless of the content of the image, it is made with the subject’s own volition and published with their consent. It is a genuine image, created privately with minimal filtration. The selfie represents a marginalized human being as a human being, instead of countless dehumanizing stereotypes. To control our image and how it is presented is one of the many ways we reclaim our bodies and celebrate our identities. We are converting a tool used to erase us into means to fashion our visibility. Look at me.
I don't feel affirmed just seeing any picture of a black person, especially if it's chosen to be in the image of/approximation to whiteness. Are you capturing a kind of solidarity or community with me? Are you owning your humanity in the photo? Do you have control over the photo? And are you free in that control?
99% of the time, yes. It's not designated for white consumption; it's not even about my consumption - it's about the picture being theirs and whatever they would like to do with it. It signifies humanity and personhood; away from whiteness and independent of whiteness. The possibility of being possible on one's own terms.
That makes me feel more my own. To honor myself, dress up, smile, speak up, and do the things that I wish to do. To contribute to a community of possibilities, in a world that tells me the possibilities of love, pleasure, happiness, desire, success, and a prism of emotions is not allowed to me. Imagine if I had that as a troubled girl, with her issues invisible because the world was normalized and she didn't exist.
This is why the majority of the people I follow are black girls and women of color. This is why they paint my pinterest boards. This is why I am studying abroad in the blackest part of Brazil. To reinforce possibility instead of closed doors. To reinforce my personhood.
That's why I'm behind selfies, because they are indeed healing.
Maybe I'll be taking them more often.
A *DIFFERENT* SELFIE ARTICLE. DECOLONIZING REPRESENTATIONS OF WOMEN OF COLOR!
A *DIFFERENT* SELFIE ARTICLE. DECOLONIZING REPRESENTATIONS OF WOMEN OF COLOR!
Friday, February 28, 2014
I'm sure I don't need to write this post, as many women of color have added to the piles of articles on the net regarding white feminists' eagerness to discredit Beyoncé as a feminist. After the release of the self-titled album, I had quietly told myself that it wasn't worth to comment on, or else I would be livid for the rest of the year.
Yesterday morning, I came across this post.
1. Because they typically focus on her sexuality, they reinforce the notion that black women are worthless because they are viewed as inherently sexual, even if they take ownership of it. In addition to her wealth and power in the industry, she is cast as a Jezebel because she refuses to be a Mammy. This is why it is "heroic" for Miley Cyrus or Lena Dunham to express their sexuality, but not Beyoncé because as a whole we expect black women to become non-threatening if they are to maintain social links with white women.
2. No one posts articles about how Lena Dunham can't be a feminist because she said nothing when her best friend dated Terry Richardson and called him a friend, when Ani DiFranco tried to host a music retreat at a plantation, or when Kathleen Hanna played at an anti-trans women music festival. These mistakes/offenses are nothing to make light of; however, no one writes articles about how their "feminist cards" need to be revoked. Additionally, it reinforces the notion that when people of color make mistakes, the general public is less forgiving to them than their white counterparts.
3. In the era of Macklemore and Lorde, where songs against "urban music's so-called materialism" receive accolades, there is much being said about how that makes Beyoncé "unattainable," "unrelatable," and "only a narcissistic superstar who solely cares about her wealth." There's a hypocrisy (we don't complain about Madonna's wealth, or Paul McCartney's) and blatant ignorance re: context (many currently successful black celebrities came from working class or poor communities). If you had nothing in the beginning, why would you continue to live humbly when you finally have something?
4. One of the other issues that pops up in these posts concerns Beyoncé's lack of academic credentials in feminism, the idea that she must take courses or have read certain authors in order to take the title. This ignores that fact that feminist acts can be made without being read/educated in Western (specifically American) feminist lit and works, and that the grand majority of women who do what we would consider feminism do not go about their lives thinking of themselves as doing specific feminist work; however, we do not discredit the grand majority of women. It is something else to push artists who have been adamant about being non-feminists while those who proudly own the label are made to be pariahs.
5. Beyoncé is alienating to white feminists, eager to throw her under the bus, is because her feminism does not explicitly address their lives and concerns, but those of black women. In a society where "black" or "person of color" or "minority" means black men, and "women" typically means white women, it is startlingly to see a person use "feminism" but have all their stage crew be black woman, give jobs to black women, represent the multitudes of black women's lives, and puts a West African feminist on full blast, all without having to ask for forgiveness or approval. This is what is aggravating to white feminists who have beef with Beyoncé: she does not apologize for putting her experiences upfront while not catering to a group of people who want to control a label for themselves.
Posted by Cassie at 10:59 AM
Sunday, January 12, 2014
I am an outsider looking in.
The first week in Brazil has been like looking at a kaleidoscope of emotions: curiosity, fear, loneliness, surprise, vulnerability, delight, and lost. It's incredibly easy to get lost and upset over things you have no control over, and in order to feel some kind of familiarity, you try to ease into behaviors that you normally would avoid, because its a way to feel some kind of solidarity, some kind of value outside yourself - and when you are hyper aware that its not your thing, you feel even more self-loathsome.
Remember to do you. Avoid the comparison games. Remember your purpose - remember the fights that you fought, the battles you won - what you struggled for: self-autonomy. Remember you have your own gifts to offer the world, unlike any other, and that it can only be done the way you imagine it to be done - the way your gut tells you it should be done.
Protect your dignity, individuality, and talents at all cost. Don't sell it away for comfort.
When it is all said and done, they should say "She did it in her own way."
Saturday, September 28, 2013
Words of Advice: It's better to try and believe in yourself than to wallow in anxiety or self-pity for fear of not achieving your goals. Be brave and bring back the goods, as long as you're doing your very best.
Sunday, August 18, 2013
the question isn’t “how do i become more confident/less self-conscious". you have to let go of the confidence/self-esteem model completely to begin with, it is totalizing and self-effacing. a more interesting question is “what do i desire?” “what can i live through?”
I just finished a 24+ page single-spaced academic paper. Now that I know that I'm capable of writing seminar papers, I feel much much better about pursuing graduate study than I was before writing. It's very nice seeing what we "wish" or "want" be achieved by "doing." As such, the quote above is reflective of that, and reinforces my current mentality.
As of late, I've realized that I am again hitting a limit with certain things: jokes people tell, other people's company, what I'm willing to put myself into. In the past, I would feel somewhat upset that I wasn't into going out to bars and drinking or dancing, or that I couldn't indulge in "typical college social behavior." But now that I have a solid social circle, stuff that I want to be involved in, and coursework that is fulfilling to me, worrying about whether I'm a freak or w/e is a waste of my time.
The goal right now is not to waste my time, ever. You could also call this purposeful living.
The ultimate goal is to become the equivalent of a space babe heroine.
Space Babe Heroine is the following:
Strong, physically and mentally.
Active and assertive.
Ridiculous and kitsch.
Never gives up.
Asks for help.
Loves very deeply.
And wears a uniform.
I'm embracing organization now, so I bought tons of folders and a white board and planner. I have a lot to achieve and do this by the end of the year. The soundtrack to my mindset is Homogenic by Björk (without the gross cover photo).